My life has been a space of perpetual learning. Here are a few of the key lessons, of the thousands I have logged over the years.
And by this I mean, take FULL responsibility for the life you want to live. All disappointment starts with expectations. The expectations live in your head. You are expecting somebody else to guess what is in your tortured brain! You are expecting them to do what you would do. They never, or very seldom do.
The same for assumptions. When you assume that somebody is going to do something, you give your personal power away. Now, your happiness is dependent on them delivering your assumption or expectation. This is the root cause of a great deal of unhappiness.
When your expectations and assumptions are not met, then you start to complain. Complaining is the most useless use of your voice. It achieves nothing. It keeps you stuck in the pain of your expectation.
To what degree do you complain?
How much of your life is wasted here?
Imagine a life with zero complaints. Heaven.
When you complain enough it shifts you into a state of frustration. By the time you reach this stage, you have given away 75% of your power. In the end, frustration drives you to resignation, giving up. Here, you are in 100% victim mode.
So how do you get out of this victim state? Simply by taking full responsibility of what you want, and asking for it. When you ask for what you want, you move yourself out of expectation and assumption. You move yourself into a position of personal power.
The strange thing is that when you start asking for what you want, you will usually get it, and wonder why you haven’t done this before. If you don’t get what you want, then you only have three options available to you. Love it. Change it. Leave it.
Take responsibility for everything that you create.
Take responsibility for everything that happens in your environment, because worst case scenario, even if the external circumstances are awful, you can still choose how you react to them.
Take responsibility for how others treat you. The most important question you can ask is “Who am I being that I am treated this way?”